Agreement Sebelum Kawin

Wikipedia stated that PRENUPTIAL AGREEMENT or PREMARITAL AGREEMENT is a contract entered into by two people prior to marriage or civil union. The content of a prenuptial agreement can vary widely, but commonly includes provisions for the division of property should the couple divorce and any rights to spousal support during or after the dissolution of marriage.

Many countries, including Canada (Quebec), France, Italy, and Germany, have matrimonial regimes, in addition to, or some cases, in lieu of prenups. In these countries, a couple elects to own property under a separate or shared property, either by meeting with a notary or by signing the agreement in front of the public officer that marries them. Some countries have signed on to the Hague Convention on Marital Regimes. These act much like prenups by allowing the parties to own property either separately or jointly.

The United Kingdom as of 2007 does not enforce prenuptial agreements (although there have been some notable exceptions). They also do not have a provision for marital regimes.

My uncle has advised me to have this prenuptial agreement with my Encik Tunang before our big day to ensure that nothing happened between us after marriage. I don't feel this so called agreement is important as Taklik Nikah defines everything about our marriage. Hukum Allah itu adil. Tak perlu ada this kind of agreement. Even my late Abah n my mom never had this kind of agreement. Bahagia jugak sampai mati eventhough she has to sacrifice alot when we were young as my Abah did his full time study.

Makin maju maknusia ni makin banyak plak benda2 yang entah apa2. Buat apa la nak ikut omputih tuh...depa punya law tak reliable compared to our Islamic Law.

I'm very reluctant to do this but to jaga hati my Wali i may have to do this. If u r in my shoes what would you do?????

Happy Secretaries Week

On April of every year, all secretaries celebrated secretaries week. According to Wikipedia,

"Administrative Professionals Day formerly known as Secretary's Day is an unofficial secular holiday observed on the Wednesday of the last full week of April (i.e. April 26, 2006; April 25, 2007; April 23, 2008), to recognize the work of secretaries, administrative assistants, receptionists, and other administrative support professionals.

National Secretaries Week was created in 1952 through the work of Harry F. Klemfuss of Young & Rubicam, in conjunction with the National Secretaries Association, now known as the International Association of Administrative Professionals (IAAP). His goal was to encourage more people to consider careers in the secretarial/administrative support field. Using his skill and experience in public relations, Klemfuss promoted the values and importance of the job of administrative assistants. In doing so, he also created the holiday in recognition of the importance of administrative assistants.

The official period of appreciation/celebration was first proclaimed by U.S. Secretary of Commerce Charles Sawyer as "National Secretaries Week," which was held June 1-7 in 1952, with Wednesday, June 4, 1952 designated National Secretaries Day. The first Secretaries' Day was held in that year by the National Secretaries Association (now the IAAP), with the support of an association of corporate groups.

In 1955, the observance date of National Secretaries Week was moved to the last full week of April. The name was changed to Professional Secretaries Week in 1981, and became Administrative Professionals Week in 2000 to encompass the expanding responsibilities and wide-ranging job titles of administrative support staff.

Over the years, Administrative Professionals Week has become one of the largest workplace observances. The event is celebrated worldwide, bringing together millions of people for community events, social gatherings, and individual corporate activities recognizing support staff with gifts of appreciation. In the United States, the day is often celebrated by giving one's assistant such gifts as flowers, candy, trinkets, lunch at a restaurant, or time off.

The International Association of Administrative Professionals (IAAP), the sole official sponsor of Administrative Professionals Week and Administrative Professionals Day, suggests that employers show their support for the holiday, and their staff, by providing training opportunities for their administrative staff, whether through continuing education, self-study materials, or seminars. The IAAP also recognizes the efforts of those who serve in human resources, professional and personal development staff, and those who serve in positions related to the daily grind of paperwork.

Administrative Professionals Day is a registered trademark with registration number 2,475,334 (serial number 75/898930). The registrant is the International Association of Administrative Professionals."

Being an Accounting Graduate, i started my career in an accounts department with all debit and credit entries, journals, audit n tax schedule and the list goes. When first joined this conglomerate, i was in one of the subsidiaries doing Motor Accounts. Then i joined this Department which they locate me in Capital Management and IR team which i need to assist 2 bosses, means being a secretary to both of them. Alamak...seksiteri plak..i never came accross with this job before but after 3 years i found this very interesting. Whomever want to meet my boss must get my permission first. If i say kenot means kenot la....no compromise...hehehehe..jahatnyer akuuuuuu......

The best things during festives seasons. Raya,Christmas,CNY mesti dapat apa2 punya. If my boss get it, they will give to me as well. For CNY, mostly hampers and oranges. For Christmas normally i will get chocolates and last time UBS sent Choc cake from Equatorial to me. For last raya i got dates from Deutsche and few other things from Banks and research houses.

This year's Secretaries Week i received a baskets full of Crabtree & Evelyn toiletteries set from CIMB Bank and today got a small box of Ferero Rocher and a stalk of Rose. Bestnyerrrrrr.........mcm2 brg dpt. Kembang idung cek....hehehe.......will share the choc tomm nite with my encik tunang when we r balik kampung.

The weak weekend

My weekend begin with doing a week laundry. Have to wake up early as Che Yah is always fussy when comes to the laundry. 1st, all whites goes in, 2nd lite colors, 3rd dark colors. Then the softener with the same things done during the washing n the sidai. Last, i did the undies n the tudungs. Adessssss.........while waiting for the laundry, i did the sewing (Che Yah did the sewing??????? ngaaaaaaa.........). Ya lorrr.....i sew the beads for my selendang which i'll be using it for nikah.

12.30 my encik tunang came to fetch me to Jln Ampang. My baju kawin dah siap alter (di tangan yer...bukan di badan...hehehe) . He dropped me later to PWTC then he drove to Subang at his brother's place. Maka cek terpaksa balik rumah naik lrt la. I was there not more than 20 minutes as Julie was not at her shop (i wanted to do facial there). Drop by at the mall n get some pretzel n trus balik. Reach home around 2.30 and continue my beading works. Pastu pengsan sat....around 5 my encik tunang called and he will come and fetch me to send him home as i may need to fetch my mom later. Mak aku nih bz sungguh...sampai tak ketahwan timing.....


We had a meeting with Persatuan Perlis KL. Depa nih punya la poyo....maklum la tgk kami ni muda2 belia. Skali crita bab program, bab IT teruih sengap. Amik hang...the 2 hours meeting end with makan free and we shoot to Ampang Plaza for taranum (karok laaaa....hehehe) Reach home after 2.00am (gilo apo anak dara nih...hikhikhikhik)

Sunday afternoon drove to Gombak and fetch encik tunang before amik mak in Jalan Conlay (pi dok tengok pesta kraftangan plakkkkk.......) Pastu pi midvalley (mujoq la encik tunang ikut. Tak dak la nk kena eskot sampai 1 MV tuh, kalo dak mau lembik lutut...hehehe......)

My mom went back the following morning. Penat betoi laaaaaaaaa............but the best thing was she is so impressed of my sewing. Actually this is the first time i did the sewing. Selalunya jait kaki seluaq pun huloq kat mak.Ngengengenge.........truih my mom said "lepas ni zip seluaq laki pandai la kot no jait seniri...." hhahahahahaaaaa..........

Peninggg.......

My wedding will be held less than 50 days and there were lot n lots of questions asked by few concerned peoples.

"Kad awat tak siap lagi?"

"Kad buat di mana?"

"Hantaran dah beli ke blom?"

"Baju dah siap ka dak lagi"

"Orang patut sebulan ni dah relek"

And the lists goes..........

Adoiiiiiii........penat nak menjawab. With my current financial situations make me sick of those questions. Sabaq..when the time comes, everything will be ready. Rimas la org dok tanya banyak2 kali benda yang sama ni. Luckily my mom doesn't forced me with such questions. She only asked about the card but only this week. I understand her situation as being alone, she has to send for invite on her own. We need to send to arwah abah's side as well. So it may takes alot of time to send those wedding cards here and there.

I am glad that everybody concerned about me but sometimes i feel uncomfortable when such questions were repeated again n again. Peoples might not understand and may not know my problem and i don't bother to tell them as this won't changed anything.

I wish i could goyang kaki and wait for the big day to comes but i can't afford to do that. I've been doing everything alone without assistance from anybody nor from my mom.

Pening memikirkan the best answers that suit the questions. Satgi tak jawab org kata sombong plak.......adesssssss........peninnnnnnnnnn...........

Fahamilah Saya

Kadang-kala ketika saya amat sibuk dan memerlukan masa untuk bersendirian, saya amat tidak bersedia untuk berkomunikasi dengan sesiapa jua walau dengan apa cara sekalipun. Akan tetapi, saya merasakan bahawa ada sesetengah pihak yang terlalu banyak masa memikirkan kenapa saya begitu dan kenapa saya begini yang akhirnya membuatkan pihak-pihak tersebut terus-terusan menyalahfahami diri saya yang mengakibatkan pihak-pihak itu mengeluarkan kata-kata kesat secara langsung atau tidak langsung.

Saya berasa amat hairan kerana orang yang sesederhana saya amat tidak difahami oleh pihak-pihak lain. Komitmen kerja dan tanggungjawab saya membuatkan saya terpaksa menidakkan atau mendiamkan diri daripada menerima apa jua bentuk komunikasi. Bukan saya sengaja untuk tidak berkomunikasi. Kadangkala komitmen tugas menyebabkan saya terpaksa meninggalkan meja kerja dan terus memutuskan komunikasi secepat dan sepantas mungkin.

Saya amat menghormati kawan dan lawan, akan tetapi rasa hormat saya akan hilang seandainya tuduhan melulu dilemparkan kepada saya. Saya mengakui yang saya bukanlah seorang manusia yang sempurna, tapi saya mengharapkan agar diri saya difahami. Berikan saya ruang untuk bersendiri dan menyelesaikan masalah dan tanggungjawab saya sendirian kerana semenjak kecil saya dibesarkan untuk melakukan segalanya sendiri(saya tinggal berjauhan dengan arwah bapa semenjak umur 4 tahun dan 14 tahun kemudian saya ditinggalkan terus sendirian bersama ibu dan adik). Keterbiasaan ini membuatkan saya amat berdikari tanpa memerlukan apa jua bentuk bantuan termasuklah menjadi pendengar setia. Saya amat menjaga rahsia peribadi saya kerana pada saya, tidak semua hal peribadi saya boleh dikongsi dengan sesiapa sahaja.

Didikan ibu yang tidak menginginkan saya menyibuk dan mengganggu urusan orang lain membuatkan saya selesa hidup sendiri tanpa gangguan. Relakan saya begini kerana saya amat-amat menghargai kefahaman pihak-pihak ini.

Syukurlah saya mempunyai bakal teman hidup yang memahami. Itu yang lebih penting untuk diri saya sekarang ini.

I miss my boss

No! no! Don't get me wrong...it is not what u're thinking. My former boss of Investor Relations left for motor division and became second man there after the EVP. Bestnyaaa....dh naik pangkat, ofis pun dekat rumah and balik pun awal...tak mcm kt sini...tgh2 mlm buta pun tercongok kt ofis ni....n the best thing is he can play golf after work...seronoknya...hope u enjoy it, boss.......hehehe......

After he left, the other person took over. I thought that there will be a new person joining in but unfortunately the other guy in the same department. The first time my boss told me in January, i'm about to burst into tears tapi menten beb..kontrol cun....

When this so called new boss handling IR, he always complaining of many meeting that he needs to attend. Dalam hati.....memang la mangkuk....dah nama pun IR..u'll definately meet Analysts,Fund Managers, Institutional Investors......adoiiiiiii.....tulonggggg......tulongggg...........i was about to giving up when i met my former boss last month. I told him that this new boss refused to accept my opinion as maybe he may think i am nobody in this office (fyi, i have almost 3 years experience by now handling this IR job especially coordinate meetings, briefings, and even IR roadshows for the company and everything were perfect).

Untill now i am still thinking what makes him and the other person looked down on me. Is it because i am not a CFA like them? but i am capable enough in my capacity and i know almost every single research houses in the country.Depa pun tak tau. Please laaaaaaaaa............ujung thn ni aku pi study baru hangpa tau langit tinggi ke rendah. Buat la semua sendiri.

I wonder why he must refer to the big boss everytime as my former boss will decide straight away of any desicion pertaining to any conferences, seminars, visits. We should advise the big boss and not ask the big boss to advise us. Hampes betoi laaaaa...........

I am really sick of this and made me refused to work with the team. And the only way to escape is to further my study full time. Apa nak jadi pun jadi laaaaaa.........i have to do this and i want to do this. Pasni i'll take over the IR........haaaaa..........amik!!!!!!!!!

Sari.....Sariiiiiiii???????????

From Wikipedia.........

A sari or saree or shari is the traditional female garment in India, Bangladesh, Nepal, and Sri Lanka.^[1] A sari is a strip of unstitched cloth, ranging from four to nine metres in length that is draped over the body in various styles. The most common style is for the sari to be wrapped around the waist, with one end then draped over the shoulder baring the midriff.^[1] The sari is usually worn over a petticoat (pavada/pavadai in the south, and shaya in eastern India), with a blouse known as a choli or ravika forming the upper garment. The choli has short sleeves and a low neck and is usually cropped, and as such is particularly well-suited for wear in the sultry South Asian summers. Cholis may be "backless" or of a halter neck style. These are usually more dressy with a lot of embellishments such as mirrors or embroidery and may be worn on special occasions.Women in the armed forces, when wearing a sari uniform, don a half-sleeve shirt tucked in at the waist.


I sent 2 baju for the reception on my side n my fiance's side to the tailor early last month but yet to buy clothes for my nikah ceremony.

I had a thought to get Songket, Chiffon or Sari for this but haven't decide till last week.

When i told my fiance' he was saying this....."R u sure Sya???? u want to wear sari??????????" .....and i answered this .."Ya la yang...nak buat bj kurung"

He actually thought that i want to wear Sari like this


Adoiiii laaaa..............what a thought....hahahaha...kesian la marka cek....i had to explain what do i want to do with the sari than he understand. Adesss........dia igt aku nak pakai sari lilit2 la tuh....

Last saturday i bought a piece of sari with embroidery which cost me less than RM100....best gilos.....hehehe......i was thinking to sew beads n pearls on the embroidery and sew my own veil....my 1st attempt. Kalo jadi lepas ni blh la buat bisnes.......

Jenuh la nak puluh menajit viel nih....2 bulan jer lagik....go Che Yah!!!!