Tuesday, December 14, 2010

Anniversary

Today is my 6th anniversary with this conglomerate. Yes....it's been already 6 years being with this big SD. I am proud being one of the people of SD. I was among the peoples who involved in the merger exercise during 2006

My favorite boss is still H who is now an MD for one of the motor subsidiaries. Hey boss, can we be in INVESTOR RELATIONS team again? I miss my IR job since i was required to leave the team. It was ur fault la boss....who ask u to go motor???? Btw, my present boss also left the company as well as leaving the country soon. Good luck LCL....learn to cook or else u'll suffer with the mat salih over there. I know that u r not a mat salih's food eater.

Since past 6 years i learnt a lot from this big SD. Making a lot of friends all over the world of big SD. Knowing a lot of outsiders, the bankers, the analysts, the fund managers (this is when i know about Mark Mobius....it was thru u la H).

I have fallen and went up again while with the big SD. I failed my 1st sem of BACC due to heart broken episode and finally met my beloved husband and went up again with good exam results...pa, i'm still waiting my hadiah la. I got A for my accounts paper as promised to u.

Due to my cheerful, talkative and sometimes quite fierce in this big SD, i managed to get what-so-ever required by the bosses. I got good bonuses too. Waiting to get ratings of 5 for my future performance appraisal.

I hope that my big SD will keep going strong no matter what and hope to get big bonuses, well paid increments, benefits (i wanna 90 days maternity leave can arr? still have 4 to meet my quota of 5 surviving children)

Can't wait to be promoted as well.... :D


XOXO

I noticed that my skills of writing wasn't quite good since past few months. May need to write more here.

Monday, December 13, 2010

Che'gu @ Ticher @ Guru

Lama dah tak tulis apa2 tang ni. 1 sebab utaman aku bizi di tahap tak tau nak habaq. By the time balik rumah pukoi 8 lebih nak pelekoh anak bagi lena dgn mak skali jalan......

Hari ni aku nak menciluk sedikit tulisan Dr Wali untuk menulis berkenaan tajuk di atas. Agak sedikit patriotik bahasa melayu aku reni sebab aku skolah di kampung laman, negeri perlih tercinta walaupun sedikit cemuih dengan keadaan politikus disana yg mcm kucin ka rimau ka tatau la.

Aku nak boh tang ni nama2 cikgu yg jd cikgu kelas dan lain2 cikgu yg mengajaq aku dr tadika smpi la form 5. Untuk makluman, aku tadika 2 taen dan silibus masa tu sama jaaaa......yuran 6 ringgit sebulan. Tadika Kemas....cikgu pon kemaih2 belaka.

Tadika I - Cikgu Melesia (cengey nak mampuih)
             -  Cikgu Rosnah (sucessor cikgu melesia time tu dia pindah pi pauh kot)
Tadika II - Cikgu Saadiah
1 Teratai - Cikgu Azizah Ahmad (mak nakan norazlina redzuan, merangkap mak nakan mona azwa kawan aku di SMD)
2 Teratai - Cikgu Tengku Zalila Tengku Kamaruzzaman (kerabat diraja Perlis. lawa org dia. muka cam mat salih hasil perkahwinan bercampur)
3 Teratai - Cikgu Mazni
4 Teratai - Cikgu Norlida Ahmad
5 Teratai - Cikgu Arpah
6 Teratai - Cikgu Norhana Padzillah Ahmad (merangkap half sister sepupu aku)

Lokasi sekolah rendah : Sekolah Tengku Budriah, Arau

1 Bijaksana - Cikgu Che Yun Idris (penggunaan bahasa melayu baku tahap dewan bahasa)
2 Aktif - Cikgu Kam Chai Wan
3 Aktif - Ustaz Zolkapli
4 Rasional - Cikgu Norhayati (kak dan adik mengajaq 1 skolah yg sama. dua2 ajaq english)
5 Rasional - Cikgu Maznah Mat Kassim yg disayang. pantang kelih dia la ni aku komfem keluaq ayaq mata. awat tah. agaknya sebab dia usaha ajaq kami add math smpi PASS exam SPM kot

Sekolah peringkat menengah adalah Sekolah Menengah Derma, Kangar, Perlis.


Berasa lagu nak tulih lagi tapi esok la sambung. Agak kebizian petang ni nak perabih keja......

XOXO - cikgu tadika cheyah ada hantaq mesej ke inbox FB cheyah pasai cheyah komen 1 gambaq kt fb yg dia dolu ni cengey nak mampuih. paksa cheyah minum susu lemu (cheyah ni anak mak, tak perlu minum susu lemu dah) sampai muntah di skolah. ma pancoq tu ada lagi, pancoq tu bulih sahkan kisah tragis ni.

Wednesday, August 18, 2010

Tagged : Mommy


Kak Anne tagged me with these few questions. Sori la Kak Anne, me busy bee mommy...nak hop to blog org pun tak sempat :))


1. How old were you when your first child was born?
29

2. What month and year was your youngest child born?
Haven't decided yet. Waiting for me to conceived then i will tell the whole world. :D

3. How did you feel when you first found out you were pregnant?
Excited. I am carrying our gene.

4. Who did you tell first?
My other half la. It was early in the morning i hold the test kit right in front of his eye.

5. How many pounds/kg did you gain during your first pregnancy?
4kg

6. What did you crave while you were pregnant?
Chocolate, ice cream, sweet things and Tebu...tapi sampai ke sudah tak dapat. I cannot take asam2.

7. Did you find out the gender of your first child? Why or why not?
We didn't know as she was premature and during that time it hardly be seen as my amniotic fluid leaked and the amount reducing.

8. Did you have any complications during your pregnancy?
Yes. I had PPROM (Preterm Premature Rupture of  Membrane)

9. How much did your first child weigh?
1060g

10. Was your first child early, late, or on time?
Ver much early. She was premature.

11. What is the most difficult challenge or health issue that any of your children have faced?
Complication during ventilated - anemia, apnea, ROP, infections

12. What's your favorite part of being a mom?
When she come and hug me and kiss me on my right n left cheeck, my lips again and again and again  until my face full of her saliva.  Seeing her development day by day makes me feel so proud and thankful for the Allah gift to us.

13. Do you think it's easier to be a mom or a dad?
Both play an important role to complete each other as a parents

14. What is the best piece of advice you could give to someone who is about to have their first child?
Thank to Allah for the precious gift. Take a good care of them especially their health and safety.

15. Did you always think you'd have kids?
Definitely

16. What's been the biggest surprise about motherhood?
Looking at her development now. I saw her heartbeat stop, i saw her in pain during first 2 months she was born and i will be offended if people compared her with other babies as she is the best gift given by Allah to me.I know my little girl and i sacrificed a lot for her. Do not simply say anything. She is MINE!

17. Are there things you miss about life before kids?
None. We are happier with her presence. Wake up in the middle of the night became routine now.

18. How many children do you have?
ONE. At the moment. ;)

19. Do you plan to have any more children?
YES! YES! YES! How many not too sure, just enough to fit in 6 seater Estima. :D

20. Who's the mom that you admire most?
Mothers who are having special kids. They are superb! I saw few mothers sending their children with learning disabilities to school accross my office. Most of them are Down Syndrome. Feel like to hug them. You are so wonderful mothers.

And I would like to tag my frens.. a mommy :


Tuesday, August 17, 2010

My Accounts Lecturer SUCKS!

Ini adalah entry geram aku dgn lecturer accounts yg mengajar aku sem nih. Bengang siot dpt lecturer cenggini.

I don't mean tu curse her but i cannot stand with her attitude. Brief description on her. She teach us basic accounting this semester. Phd holder from London.....London tau!!!! Being a lecturer more than 10 years....10 years, okkeh! Bukan 10 months.

1st class....she seems young, i think maybe around mid 30. A good lecturer perhaps. She begins the class with some powerpoints presentation on the introduction. Fine, i guess this maybe just an intro. During the class she nagged on a few minor little thing. She left out the accounting cycle things etc which i think it wasn't right. She should teach from the very basic things as to ensure the students understand about accounting. This is very technical subject. Should be very detailed than what she has done during the class.The class end with assignments n quiz. I started to feel something but i just let it go eventough i dont feel good attending her class.

2nd class....we are supposed to learn adjustments, some inventory treatment perpetual n periodic method as well as LIFO n FIFO. Note to my uitm friends, we learnt this on costing during diploma. I think most of the time she nagged. Luckily i still can recall most of the things and we in a group of 5 do the exercises in the class while she nagged and being manja-manja mesra with the boys. Eeeee......meluat!!!! I interrupted her teaching when she was struggling to make the students understand about UNEARNED REVENUE....it it our liability la mangkuk.....they customer pay deposit/prepayments for the service rendered. 2 of my geng bas sekolah withdraw from taking this paper because they don't understand anything from her teaching. I got frustrated because i encourange them to hang on as i can help and teach them during dicussions.

3rd class.....she introduced Bank Reconciliation and we do some revision on the Assignment 2 given. What irritates me the most when she said she doesn't have the answer as she hasn't done it. Helllooooooooooooo!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! a PHD holder tak buat revision before classes ker? After few attempt with some of us having the same answer then she admit that she asked her students to do it and she didn't do herself. WHAT THE F@*K!!!! Kepala otak hanggggggg!!!!

Kalo lagu ni mengajaq, baik aku yg takeover class. Let me teach my friends. Being among the excellent in the class (my other half said u takyah pi kelas...u dh penah ambik subject ni dulu), i feel worry about the other students especially my geng bas sekolah as they don't really understand about accounting. I am not so excellent but i can still recall what have been taught as i took accounting for my SPM as well as Diploma and my non-graduate degree.

She being a lecturer should teach the students from zero. Know your students before you start teaching. Please mind your words as we are adults, not school children. Do not nagged on what should and shouldn't we wear to class. Please focus more on teaching than nagging. You are not school prefect. Dah la mulut cam S*!L. Skati jer nk cakap apa. Ikut sedap mulut jer...tak reti nk hormat org langsung!

I wish i can excell in this subject. I initiate to teach my friends from the basic accounting i.e classification of accounts as well as debit n credit entry. I will keep on teaching untill they understand and know how to do it. I hope they can do well in the exam.

This make me think of being a lecturer to educate and guide students. Be a good one. Much better than her. I wonder how she teach full time student. Patutkah aku menghalalkan setiap sen yang aku bayar utk dia mengajar kami?


Dear varsities, please ensure your lecturer can teach. Please do not choose them merely on their exam grades as not all excellent students can teach.

I dunno how did she managed to be a lecturer? Don't waste tax payers money if you have this kind of attitude!You are not worth their money.

Should i make an official complaint to the faculty?


XOXO....

I missed my lecturers in Uitm....n i missed their nagged too... :D
Puan Laily Umar
Puan Sharifah Fadzlon Abd Hamid
Puan Rohana Alias
Puan Kalsom Said
And other lecturer in Faculty of Accountancy UiTM Shah Alam who teach me from 1997 till 2002.

Thanks for educating and guiding me. 

Wednesday, August 4, 2010

How I see things recently

 First day of holding my little Safiyyah....44 days after she was born. Wrapped in 3 pcs of cloth and yet she is smaller than my hand


My little Safiyyah recently (pic taken in May)

I found out that Raden Galoh, someone whom i know writes about her journey of fighting breast cancer (Kanser Payu Daraku) lost her battle to fight the 2nd attack of the cancer few weeks ago. I don't really read her blog without any reason. Maybe kind of busy or something. After known that she has passed away from her friend who is also my colleague, i started to read her blog from the beginning. (I am that type of person, i will write someone's blog from the beginning until the recent)

While browsing her blog, i found an interesting posting dated May 3rd 2009 by  Siti Marlina Zainal about her surviving years of battling breast cancer and how did she managed to carry her first little angel with only 1 left breast as she had her masectomy and how she fought till her last breath carrying her son (the baby was born premature due to her health condition) After 2 1/2 month gave birth to Qays Aiden, she lost he battle and return to the Creator. Al-Fatihah for both of them.

Previously, I will tell peoples that i am not ready to have another child due to my study, my work etc.But after reading their blogs, i am now see things in differently. I want to do everything in this world. I want to graduate and soon having masters degree, i want to have a small business so that i can be at home raising my children, i want to make my husband happy, i want to swim again, loosing weight (as my other half claimed that i am FAT) and i want to have more children. I can't wait until i am ready which i do not know when i will be ready but for sure i am ready now. (ready ker?)

I remember the first time touching her on the 2nd day i gave birth to her and i can only hold her after 44 days she was born. The fellings which i can never imagine and i can never tell. I want to have that feelings again and yet I am still afraid of having preterm labor again but for this time i need to save a lot for our next coming baby(ies) in case that i have the preterm labor again. I will start my business soon and trying to conceive in the next few months or maybe next year. Insyaallah...i hope everything will be fine.


XOXO...........

I impliedly write it here in case if my other half read my blog as i won't let him know directly......satgi dia melompat sakan plak. :D

Friday, July 16, 2010

I sew!

To those peoples who knows me please do not laugh to my tittle today. Yes, i can sew now. Years back while i was still schooling my mom keep telling me to learn sewing as everytime there's holes on my pants, few buttons dropped off my shirts, badges for my new school uniforms etc22 i will passed to my mom and she will sew for me. Everytime she sew she will keep telling me to learn and same goes to my grandma. She will keep repeating the same stories telling me that my mom can sew when she was at aged 9. Aiyyakkk...........so boring! :))

Being a bit 'tomboyish' during my school time, i would never learn anything so called home making thingy except for cooking. I learnt to cook from my late father and definately i can cook like him ( i missed the moment with him so much)

Everytime the same nagging that i heard i will just ignored. One time my mom said..."wait untill u have to sew your husbands' pants or whatsoever" n i said...i will send to the tailor" as simple as that. Hehehehehe.........i keep ignoring things about learning sewing and even the time when my husband said that his mother can sew. I just keep my mind out of sewing until we have out Little Safiyyah.

I saw a lot of beautiful dresses, toys being sold online and same goes to my friend who sew smocking dress for girls. I started to adore and have intentions to sew. I keep asking a sewing machine from my husband and he ignores everytime i asked for it.

One day i bought a cute tiny sewing machine just for a starting point for me to sew. And i made it!!!!! Up to date i managed to sew a circle skirt for myself, pillow, whale shape plushies and a backpack  for our little girl. Yeay!!!!! and i 'm so proud of myself. As a beginner, i may not sew perfectly but at least i can do a few things and most of it i will refer to the patterns available online.

I am thinking of doing a few more things and getting ready for my online shop soon.


XOXO.......

Read about Piddix founder.....im thinking of doing it within 5 years from now. Will i be able to do it?.

Friday, June 18, 2010

Pemakanan Anak Anda

Terbaca satu artikel  bertajuk "Tak pernah makan nasi" di Harian Metro hari ini. Satu artikel yang menarik perhatian saya hari ini.

Teks artikel tersebut adalah seperti berikut.

Bagi Mohd Faiz Hilman Ahmad Edwin,Mohd Faiz Hilam Ahmad Edwin yang hanya makan biskut, kek, roti, nuget dan bebola ikan sebagai sarapan pagi, tengah hari dan malam.

Ibu kanak-kanak itu, Norzarihan Hashim, 35, berkata dia pernah cuba memberi bubur nasi kepada Mohd Faiz ketika berusia enam bulan, namun anaknya itu memuntahkan semula selepas disuap.


Katanya, anaknya seolah-olah geli apabila melihat sisa nasi melekat pada jari dan sering menyembunyikan diri sebaik cuba disuap makanan itu.


“Walaupun akur dengan keadaan menimpa Mohd Faiz, namun saya tetap mencuba untuk memberinya nasi, tetapi dia tetap bertindak menutup mulut dan melarikan diri mengelak disuap menyebabkan saya buntu.


“Malah, dia sering menjauhkan diri setiap kali saya dan suami serta adik-beradiknya yang lain menjamu selera di meja makan,” katanya ketika ditemui semalam.


Menurutnya, dia sentiasa membawa bekalan biskut setiap kali membawa anaknya itu keluar bersiar-siar termasuk menghadiri kenduri perkahwinan disebabkan tabiatnya yang tidak suka memakan nasi.


Katanya, dia pernah membawa Mohd Faiz berjumpa bomoh untuk merawat tabiatnya itu, namun masih tiada perubahan, sebaliknya anaknya tetap tidak mahu memakan nasi.


“Saya hairan dengan masalah menimpa Mohd Faiz kerana adiknya, Maisarah Afia yang baru berusia tujuh bulan sudah mula memakan bubur nasi manakala anak sulung, Marsha Erlina, 8, juga tidak menghadapi masalah menjamah nasi,” katanya.


Mohd Faiz yang kini belajar di Taska Abim, Parit adalah seorang kanak-kanak yang aktif dan membesar seperti rakan sebaya lain.


Malah, dia bercita-cita mahu menjadi doktor dan begitu meminati mata pelajaran Matematik dan Sains serta aktif dalam sukan bola sepak.


Norzarihan berkata, dia akan membawa anaknya berjumpa dengan pakar pemakanan dalam tempoh terdekat dan berharap masalah dihidapi anaknya itu dapat diatasi.


Sebagai seorang ibu, saya tidak selalu menggalakkan anak memakan nasi setiap masa walaupun sedar nasi adalah makanan ruji bagi rakyat Malaysia dan Asia keseluruhannya.


Anak saya mula mengambil makanan pejal ketika berusia 1 tahun. Saya mulakan dengan bijirin, buah-buahan yang dikisar halus dan bubur nasi. Walaubagaimanapun, seminggu saya hanya akan menyediakan hidangan nasi sebanyak 2-3 kali sahaja dan pada hari-hari yang lain saya akan menyediakan pelbagai jenis hidangan kepada anak saya.

Antara hidangan yang saya sediakan adalah :

1. Kentang lenyek beserta sos (brown gravy)
2. Makaroni sup dengan ayam,brokoli,kentang dan lobak merah
3. Labu dengan oats dan brokoli
4. Makaroni minestrone (sup tomato)
5. Spaghetti dengan sup sayuran (bunga kobis, asparagus, lobak merah, kentang)
6. Sandwich telur dan keju
7. Nasi goreng cina beserta sayuran
8. Kentang goreng, sayur campur dan ayam panggang (ayam dicarikkan dan goreng tanpa minyak dengan sayur)
9. Lempeng berinti sayur dan mayonis

(Jenis hidangan bertambah apabila umur anak meningkat)

Saya juga menyediakan sendiri puri buah-buahan seperti yang boleh didapati di pasaraya seperti puri epal, puri pear, puri pisang dan puri mangga. Walaupun lebih mudah membeli dari kedai, saya lebih gemar memasak sendiri kerana seandainya anda membeli dari kedai atau pasaraya, susah tentu makanan bayi tersebut akan mengandungi bahan-bahan kimia untuk memanjangkan jangka hayat makanan tersebut. Untuk membuat puri buah-buahan amatlah mudah. Anda cuma perlu merebus buah-buahan tersebut bersama sedikit kulit kayu manis sehingga lembut dan kemudian kisar.
Untuk mangga dan pisang anda hanya perlu terus kisar dan hidangkan

Selain daripada itu, cara menghidang juga amat penting. Ini telah dipraktikkan oleh masyarakat Jepun sekian lama yang dipanggil Bento. Saya telah pun membeli dan menjual alat-alat untuk membuat bento untuk menarik perhatian kanak-kanak untuk makan makanan seimbang.

Sebagai seorang ibu, saya berpendapat bahawa ibu-ibu perlu kreatif untuk menarik minat anak-anak untuk makan. Sebolehnya elakkan makan makanan yang diproses seperti nuget,hotdog,fishball. Sebaiknya cuba belajar membuat sendiri makanan tersebut atau gantikan dengan bergedil, tauhu dan tempe. Hias buah-buahan dan sayuran supaya nampak lebih menarik. Dapatkan buku untuk resipi makanan untuk anak anda. Yang terbaru buku hasil tulisan Puan Wardina Safiyyah bertajuk "Mama Saya Lapar". Terdapat berbagai-bagai tajuk buku dalam Bahasa Inggeris berkenaan pemakanan kanak-kanak. Resipi percuma juga boleh didapati melalui internet. Kita boleh ubah mengikut citarasa kita.

Untuk ibu yang mengalami masalah seperti kanak-kanak tersebut, saya cadangkan agar anda menggunakan sudu apabila ingin menyuapkan anak anda makan serta hias makanan anak anda dengan menarik untuk menggalakkan dia makan. Anda juga boleh menukar nasi kepada karbohidrat yang lain seperti roti, kentang, ubi keledek dan sebagainya.




Diucapkan selamat berjaya kepada ibu-ibu seluruh Malaysia.


XOXO.....
Anak daraku suka makan semua benda yg mama masak

Wednesday, June 16, 2010

2 Months Stories

Finally, after 5 months of hard work of doing assignments, studying, sacrifice my sweet times with my beloved husband and our lovely little Safiyyah my exam results was released yesterday.

Had 2 A- and 1 B+. The worst thing was my B+ is the subject which i think the easiest to get an A. Tensen tol laaaa.......but i take it as my mistake for taking the subject for granted. Amikkkkkk.....padan muko!!!

So this semester i will need to double my work besides i promised to my Geng Bas Sekolah that i will teach them Accounting and Microeconomics. Hopefully i can still remember the debit and credit transactions as well as demand and supply curves. So guys, i am already started reviewing the books and writing down some notes for all of you. Kot ada yg nak withdraw lg mmg nk kena la tuh!

I am getting new interest now which is sewing.......YES, I am serious about it!!!!. I sew pants for my daughter as well as Curry Puff shape pillow for her. y curry puff? that is the easiest shape can i do and besides it was a leftover cloth which i tried to make some seat pouch for her.

Our Little Safiyyah started to stand and move few little steps forward since a week ago. It's been a long time for us to wait and watch her little footsteps. A great achievement for her being a preemie. TETAPI........kalo time merajuk, mengamuk seduit pun x guna. Dia punya tunjuk perangai....adoi laaaaaaa......peninnnnn!!!!

On the other hand, i did apply for an education assistance which the staff will be able to claims all the expenses throughout the duration of studies and will be reimburse by the company. It is some kind of scholarship but the amount paid is only 75% of the total cost of studies. Unfortunately, she put a negative comment on my application. By means that she will not allow me to take leave excepts for exam.

My performance appraisal this year affected by her mood. Getting just above the average rate, i was told that i am not accomodating enough for the department. Until now, i do not know what does she meant by not accomodating dan aku pun tak kuasa nak tanya. What i do this year was i did not confronted her. I just let her talk n talk and signed off the form. Rejecting my request for attending treasury training, she mentioned in the form that i will need to go for BASIC ACCOUNTING & FINANCE course. Being an Accounting Diploma holder and 3 years working experience in various accounts department, i have enough BASIC KNOWLEGDE in Accounting. I don't need that. I need something related to work. With a comment that i will be promoted as an executive if i do well in my degree, make me sick of it. Ok, fine! I'll take the challenge. I will get a good grade! A GOOD ONE!!!! After i graduated, i will no longer work for you! This is a promise to myself. I don't want to see your face anymore!
 

XOXO....

My dearest hubby....

It's because your doa' and your blessing i get good grades though i may lack of time studying due to my illness during weeks of exams. 

My dear Humaira Safiyyah...

I am so sorry to sacrifice our precious moments together. I promise you to have good grades until so that i will have 1st Class Degree.

My lovely Mak....

Thanks for being with me all the time. For taking care of my daughter while i need to study prior to my exam.

Friday, April 30, 2010

About the mother and kids

I was reading  The Star today when i discover an interesting topic a on a WHY NOT? column written by Raslan Sharif  tittled Job Hopping For Motherly Care.

"If you believe parenting cannot be left to the maid, then a two-income family is out of the question.
THERE is this saying, and I’m sure you’ve heard it before: You don’t know what you’ve got until it’s gone.
Oftentimes, we take for granted certain things because we’ve always had it. We only sense a loss, and sometimes express belated gratitude, when we no longer have those things.
I might sound like an old man right now, but bear with me.
There is a state that is to my mind even worse than that which I have just described. It is when you are at a loss from the outset because you have not even had that particular thing in the first place.
It’s not just that you don’t know what you’re missing; it’s also being deprived, without you really knowing it, especially if you’re still a child.
I remember my school days clearly, or rather, being home after a day at school.
My mother, a full-time housewife who was once a teacher, would always be at home when my younger brother and I got back from school.
She would have cooked lunch for us and, throughout the rest of the day, would ensure that we kept to our schedule of homework, study and play, though not necessarily in that order.
In short, she mothered us.
Throughout our schooling years, my mother would always be at our side, a constant presence who would do the things that any mother would, circumstances permitting.
My father, who was a civil servant, would often be home for lunch and be back from work by around 5pm, well before the sun went down.
And probably like any other child, I only “see” this fortunate environment that I grew up in when the circumstances that I find myself in as an adult, a father and husband evoke such memories.
It would be safe to say that raising a family today is quite different in some ways to what my parents went through.
My parents raised four children. Today, many parents would find it difficult to raise a family of that size without both having to work to generate the income necessary for the task.
In fact, it can be difficult enough if you had just one child, especially during the first few years of your working life.
I, of course, speak from experience. When my wife and I were expecting our son nearly 11 years ago, I had to find a new job that paid better, and I got one just about a couple of months before he was born.
This is not say that all was fine with regard to money after that. My wife still had to go back to work, and if it weren’t for the big help in various forms from family and friends in those early years, it would still not have been enough to see us through.
My parents and parents-in-law practically raised my son, with other family members chipping in their time and effort now and then. We would only see him later in the evenings, when we took him home, and during weekends.
When my daughter was born four years later, we had to get a maid, which was the more financially viable option to the alternative of my wife quitting her a job.
So in the mornings, my wife and I would send my son to school before heading for work. My parents would pick him up and send him home later in the afternoon. Meanwhile, my in-laws and the maid looked after our daughter.
As usual, we would only get to see our children at night when we got back from work.
This went on until about two years ago when I told myself that this could not go on, and all those memories about my mother always being at my side when I was growing up came flooding back.
Here were my children, in their early years, when they need their parents the most, and we weren’t there. There would be only a few years before they hit their teens and, as we all know, teenagers don’t really want to be even within 10km of their parents.
My wife and I agreed that we needed to strengthen family bonds and that at least one of us had to watch over our children and see them grow before his or her very eyes.
So I looked for another job and got one that enabled my wife to quit work and devote as much time as was necessary to the children.
I consider myself lucky as I know many parents out there do not have this option. I am not saying that children who grow up without at least their mother being that constantly soothing presence that my mother was will turn out for the worse.
But I think having one parent around would not hurt, if not be advantageous to, the growth and development of the children.
> Raslan Sharif will make sure he and his children remain ever grateful to everyone who helped when help was needed."

Honestly i dont really read any articles written by columnist as i found that those write ups are not interesting to me (This is my personal point of view, no offence) eventhough they are good writers there.

But his article really interest me as he has the same thought with me. I am thinking of one day quitting my 9 to 5 job and be a full time home manager to manage my family especially the kids. Contrary to him, my mom work for a sugar producer in the north while both my brother and i being taken car by our grandmother. 

During the grown up period, we were close to our grandma compared to our mother and me, being a father's daughter i am close to my father that time until when i was 18 when i normally talk about school to my father as i think my mother doesn't understands me well.

Now, having a beautiful growing up little princess i am thinking and might be considering being at home taking care of her instead of working 9-5. Just to ensure that i can raised my own kids instead of asking my mom for help or getting a maid to take care of my children. I want my kids to be close to me.

I am thinking of doing something from home, a small business maybe if my husband alone can support our family. To me, working from home you may have a flexible working hours and can spare more time at home with the kids. Some home managers make a lot of money by doing a small business from home. (I should have a business plan by now). I envy some of my friends who are home managers and can do some good business from home (you know who you are)

I might doing this one day. People may or may not agree for what i am doing but making myself and my family happy is the most gracious and important to my life.

 
Publish Post

XOXO....

My other half would be the happiest person if i tell him about this. :D

Friday, April 23, 2010

Me n Skool

I am so glad to go back to school again. I am happy to be among my 'geng bas sekolah'. We are all together to complete our assignments, study group and even we go out for lunch together.

I enjoy doing my study now compared to the previous course which i took half way, half heartedly few years back .

Thanks to my husband for taking care of our little Safiyyah while i am attending the classes and discussions during weekends.

Many people wonder why i wanted to go to school again. First, i want like to obtain a Bachelor Degree. Second, i want to get promoted and higher salary. Third, it is for my self satisfaction. Fourth, i want to enhance my skill and knowledge.

A lot of my friends encouraged me to study. Their words of motivation really helps. Unfortunately, someone said to me "dah tua2 pun nak study lagi" (u r too old to study). I dunno why she said that to me. I know that she's graduated and being an ENGINEER now. But at least have some respect on what other people are doing. I don't need your blessing to do my study. And i don't even need your money to pay for my school fees. If you dont like it, u better keep your mouth shut! My father did his study until the day he died. So do i. I will keep myself studying untill the day i die. People who think that other peoples are too old to study are STUPID!  If you are not interested to do it, do not bad mouth on others. Let them do whatever they want and whatever they wished to.

Don't be my friend if  you have that STUPID attitude!

Wednesday, April 21, 2010

Happry Secretaries Day

Dear all secretaries,

Happy Secretaries Day to all of you. May our good effort and hard work recognize by the bosses.  I received some gifts from few banks for my day today.

Thanks to Denise & Mastura of Corporate Banking CIMB, Viviane & Norsiah of Mizuho, Jamal & Sow Leng of Credit Suisse.

Will upload the pics soon (cable lupa nak bawak la plak)

Friday, January 29, 2010

Mama's First Day At School

My first class begin last week saturday. It was Komunikasi Perniagaan i.e Business Communication which is the only subject that we have to sit and it is in Malay Language. Aiiyyyyoooooo.....my Malay language is SPM standard only, not Uni standard. Die laaaaa........

My first Malay presentation after i completed my diploma 10 years ago was horrible.

(The translations as follows)

"Dear all i've been using English language spoken and written since i left school and my spoken Malay is very bad as i will be using my Northern Accent during the conversation. My apology for that."

I keep using few English term which some of the classmates will help me to translate it to Malay. Hadoi laaaaa.........susah betoi. It was extremely difficult eventhough i had a distinction A1 in my Malay language for SPM. Normally for written Malay i would sit back and relax and think an appropriate word to use as previously i used to help few bosses to translate English letter to Malay especially when we deal with government bodies.

My Management class was also awesome as i see the overall view as a working adult. I don't need to memorize all the things as i need to understand the overall process and applied to my daily working life. I see all these differently compared to my full time study before which i memorize all the notes and answer it on paper which i dont even understand what it is all about.

I have 2 assignments to complete and i hope that i can do well in both subjects.


XOXO....

Sometimes is very hard when the other half being 'inconsiderable' on every single thing. Should another half cry, laugh, frust, hate the other half for being that way?

Cinta Sejati

Cinta sejati yang bisa
Memberi tanpa harus menerima
Dia membawa damai dan bahagiakan jiwa
Tuk semua manusia
Hanya cinta sejati yang bisa
Bertahan tanpa mengenal waktu
Takkan pernah sirna bagaikan karang di samudera
Kan abadi tuk selamanya
Seperti itulah cintaku untuk dirimu
Tulus dan apa adanya
Datang dari sebuah rasa sucinya hati
Atas nama cinta sejati
Dan bila engkau telah mengerti
Berapa besarnya artinya cinta
Hingga setiap nafas yg mengalir di tubuhmu
Mengandung cinta dari yg kuasa
  Setiap nafas yang mengalir di tubuhmu
Mengandung cinta dari yg kuasa....
 

This song performed by an Indonesian group called Element. A love song for mama's beloved friend, Aunty Tinie accountant turn professional photographer. Whoever need a pro for their photo session can look for her. (Aunty....ni mama tulong promote nih......25% bley? hahahaha.....)

A happy ending love story which mama was also involve part of it. Being a consultant, a peer  (ni time nak pi skodeng la), a listener (time2 genting menghadapi masalah Di Persimpangan Dilema) and few other things that i joined in the be her 'komplot'.....mama so happy to see both of them are happily married now (the benchmark is both of them are so 'bulat' compared to few years before. :D

Have a wonderful marriage and wonderful life together....

To Aunty Tini....mama will always be a listener, a peer (with a little escort cum bodyguard now), an a consultant like before...and i cherished every moment that we have together for the past 17 years (emo plak pagi2 nih)


XOXO......

4 ZARS is having a lunch date today in Sogo....(green color belongs to rumah Sheikh Ahmad, Skolah Derma)

Friday, January 22, 2010

Mama is going to school

I enrolled to a Bachelor Degree programme last week in International Islamic University. It is a part time degree programme which requires me to attend the classes forthnightly every 1st and 3rd weekend of the month and this requires a lot of sacrife for three of us, my husband, myself and our little Safiyyah.

My classes will begin next week and the duration for the course is merely 4 years which i have 11 semesters to complete with merely 40 subjects to finish. Half of the subjects i already sit and passed and some with distinction when i did my diploma before but i may not taking any credit transfer as i was graduated almost 10 years ago. I think it is good to refresh eventhough it takes me longer time to graduate.

I'm a bit nervous as i need to work harder than before as i have a lot of responsibility now including work, being a wife and a mother at the same time. I hope that i can do well and be one of the top student and later obtain a scholarship for my master degree.


XOXO

Orang kata jgn berangan tinggi sangat takut tak jadi....tapi bak kata kawan aku....kalo takdak angan2 takkan jadi KLCC tuh. 

Congratulations to En. Hisham Hamdan, our group head . He is now EVP of Energy & Utilities for immediate effect. 
You inspire me a lot. Thank you for your encouragement for me to pursue my degree and i hope i will be the first lady Special Officer to EVP soon. Look forward to assist you in the near future.

Tuesday, January 12, 2010

Tak Mungkin Kerana Sayang.....

Watched Anugerah Juara Lagu 24 on TV3 on sunday nite. One of the song contested last night was Tak Mungkin Kerana Sayang by Aliyah, composed by Ajai and lyrics by a prominent song writer, Habsah Hassan ( i heard her name since i was at younger age). These are the lyrics

Setiba di persimpangan,
Langkah kita tak lagi sehaluan
Bermula di saat itu
Tidak senada irama dan lagu

Begitu hidup ini
Tiada yang abadi
Yang patah tumbuh
Yang hilang berganti

Kau telah jauh, jauh dariku
Tiada ruang di hati buatmu
Namun harusku akui
Ada ketika di minda kau menjelma kembali

Sekali segala ada
Ada rindu yang datang tiba2
Tak mungkin kerana sayang
Cuma terganggu oleh perasaan

Begitu hidup ini
Tiada yang abadi
Yang patah tumbuh
Yang hilang berganti


The song remind me of someone whom i know, whom i used to love before. We met end of 2005 as friends and going steady in 2006. After almost a year, our relationship ends. He left me a week before Syawal and it ruined my study and i failed my exam.I should not having a relationship at the early beginning as he made me a 'stopover' after his girlfriend left him for another guy. This saddened me for quite some times but it keeps me stronger. I cried the nite after he left me as i told myself that i don't want to cry because of him anymore and yes i made it.

All happened while he was in Sudan. I was so frustrated. I was so devastated. I wasn't expect all this could happen as i do everything that he wants especially listening to his frustration when the girl left him.

"I sayang u....tapi...." the words end there. Kalau dah sayang awat buat saya camtu....yer,tak? But it's okay.....everything came back to normal after few months he left and i met a guy whom is now my husband. A man that i love my entire life, whom will always be with me for better or worst. I am happy with my life now having my husband and our daughter to be with me.

~Sekali segala ada, rindu yang datang tiba2
Tak mungkin kerana sayang, cuma terganggu oleh perasaan~

Friday, January 8, 2010

XOXO

I watched gossip girl sometimes while i was still awake when the show aired on 8TV. Every tuesday at 10.30pm. The show will end with a story teller will conclude on the episode. (story teller ka?...rasa cam ada nama lain ja) The words will end with 'XOXO'

Everytime i watched the series i wonder what is 'XOXO' means and i ended up google'ling the meaning of XOXO and it is in the wikipedia.....it means....

Hugs and kisses

Ooooo..........now i know laaaaa.......ermmmmmm..........it's been a while since i left all those jargons after few years i left my chatting world. I only chat with few friends since then. So no much new jargons that i know. What else that i missed?



XOXO.... 

hati aku jadi tak ketahwan minggu nih.....semua rasa ada.....